Envy causes pain to others: because when we think someone else is better than we are, or when we try to mimic them, we stall the expression of our own unique talents and destiny, which others may need. And simultaneously, when we project too much admiration or resentment onto another talented self-manifesting person, they may telepathically feel there is something wrong with their expressing their talent because of an undercurrent that feels unequal or imbalanced. How many people have kept themselves small because they might eclipse the reality of a parent or partner?
When we allow ourselves to vent in repeating waves of rage, for example, we hurt others: because we are choosing to indulge in our own feelings of frustration, in an arrogantly selfish and infantile way. Our frustrations come from our own beliefs that something outside us has more power than we do, and thus we must moan and groan, or resist and fight. But it is we who set up the definitions and circumstances to deprive ourselves of the right to free self-expression in the first place, we who granted the power to others to tell us who we can or cannot be. We are the ultimate authorities of our own existence! We are the only ones who can entitle ourselves once again to the full self-expression of our soul through our personality. No outside condition or person really has anything to do with it. But we allow ourselves to wound others: Why?
As we enter the Intuition Age, where we have a growing direct experience of the "rules" of how the unified field (or the unified Self) and Spirit operate, we will come to see that the current mental and emotional behaviors we accept as normal are actually prehistoric. We will feel ashamed. We will want to make amends rather than continue to avoid facing the music, because to avoid "atonement," or the recreation of the state of at-one-ment, will be too personally painful. I actually looked up words that try to describe this incredibly important part of the transformation process; maybe one will inspire you:
remorse: deep regret or guilt for a wrong committed
reconciliation, reconcile: cause to coexist in harmony; make or show to be compatible;
feel the implication of actions
day of reckoning; day of judgment
come to grips with
face the consequences
contrition, deep regret, repentance, penitence, guilt, compunction, remorsefulness, ruefulness, contriteness; pangs of conscience, self-condemnation, self-reproach