Still editing my daybook, The Present Moment, into its new ebook format, I came across this entry which spoke to me:
Today, let yourself bend the rules, take a chance, rebel, be
inconsistent, stand out. Give yourself permission to be “new in the now.”
What is so attractive about being a misfit? We Americans
glorify our James Deans, Marilyn Monroes, Janis Joplins, Neal Cassadys — our
Thelma and Louise outlaws, our rebel geniuses. The American mystique reveres
those who burn bright and die young, who are talented yet wounded or deeply
confused, those who are vulnerable and shy but show up anyway and it kills them
to offer their essence.
Maybe we all feel like misfits — our country is a land of misfits who left their various
tribal cultures to make new lives. We champion not fitting in, and being
stand-out individuals. I feel this way too — fitting in is like a sacrifice, as
though the culture has all the power and once I acquiesce totally to the tribal
mind, it will tell me who I can be,
and I'll slowly suffocate.
I want to make sure I'm not buying into a myth that keeps me
limited, though. I like what medical intuitive Carolyn Myss says about pulling
out all the power cords we have plugged into the tribal mind, and sourcing
ourselves directly from our own divine nature instead of from the culture. That
when we dare to not feed the culture in the manner to which it's become
accustomed, by not automatically buying into society's traditions, it rejects
and betrays us. This frees us, but it takes continuing courage to buck the
system and not do what's expected.
We misfits have to be careful, though, about getting caught
in a mystique based on victimization. Sure, it's challenging at first to
express a different vision, an unusual creative turn, especially to audiences
who are used to the status quo. We can get so used to rejection and criticism
that we glory in it and miss the next phase of the process where suffering is
transformed into love.
Instead of being a victim misfit, we can take the role of
teacher, inspirer, leader, healer, entertainer. When one person expresses a new
view, the tribe reacts to suppress the disruptive force. But when that person
speaks lovingly, inclusively, patiently, encouragingly to the others, they get
interested. "Do you mean, I could do something like this, too? Do you
mean, I can be free to express and create from my own inner vision?"
This is how the misfits become shamans and holy people,
artists and builders, modeling a new way for society to evolve in alignment
with inner truth and universal laws, instead of resisting to their death
society's external rules and regulations.
Photo by Emmet Gowan (one of my all-time favorites!)